Ending

by Healmyvoice on November 30, 2021

Photo by Crawford Jolly on Unsplash

What is ending this year?

For me, it is Heal My Voice. After a three-year process of completing free study guides for the books and a year of Co-Visioning in a group of twelve women authors, the business structure of Heal My Voice is closing. I am in the process, and everything will be finalized by the end of March 2022.
It’s time to expand where I point my attention. I will share more of that in 2022.

The books will continue to be available. The website will stay up for another five years. We will continue to highlight women’s voices on the Facebook Page. Visibility for women’s vulnerable, powerful, inspiring, wise voices will always be important.

Since January 11, 2011, 200 stories were written by 125 women in a nine-month program of healing trauma, loss and grief through writing, speaking and stepping into greater leadership. Women from around the world joined in a Secret Facebook Group and on weekly community calls. Sharing their experiences and process in the small group and then on Blogtalk radio shows. Celebrating each other on social media and taking new awareness and strength into their homes, communities, businesses, and the world.

Endings deserve attention, reflection, and gratitude. Gratitude for the journey, the growth, lessons learned and the experience.

Beth Terrence, the President of Heal My Voice in 2021, led the Co-Visioning group beginning on January 11 2021 and ending in October. We celebrated the tenth anniversary of Heal My Voice and then followed the monthly Heal My Voice process:

Listen

Discover

Explore

Expand

Express

Connect

Reflect

Awaken

Celebrate.

Beth and I met monthly to discuss the focus of each call then gathered with women in a Co-Visioning circle of 12. Beth led us in the process for 90 minutes.

In the Co-Visioning process in 2021, each of the women reflected on what was shifting in their lives – on the inside and the outside. Conversations focused on what was ending and what was ready to be birthed. The vulnerability and heart felt sharing were a blessing to the end of this amazing 11 years with women in the Heal My Voice and Heal My Voice Sweden communities.

Over the next few months, there will be blog posts shared by some of the women authors.

I am grateful for the opportunity to heal and reclaim my voice and to witness the hearts and minds of the courageous, inspiring, visionary women I met along the way.

Andrea Hylen

The books are available at Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/Andrea%20Hylen

Also on Amazon and can be ordered from your local bookstore.

Andrea Hylen, Founder of Heal My Voice and The Incubator: A Co-working Space for Cultural Creatives. Life Scientist. Live house-free. Widow. Mom of Adult Daughters. Grief. Writing Sexuality. Evolutionary Woman

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The Power of Personal Awakenings

by Healmyvoice on June 30, 2019

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By Andrea Hylen, Founder of Heal My Voice

There were two pivotal moments of “personal awakening” between December 1985 and December 1986 that changed the direction of my life. The first awakening began late one night, sitting in the kitchen cross stitching Christmas ornaments to be given as presents. Existing on only three to four hours of sleep each night, I had a moment of paralysis. My legs and feet were frozen in place. I couldn’t move. I cried out for my husband to help me. With his assistance, I was slowly able to stand up and shuffle into the bedroom. Crying myself to sleep. I repeated silently, “Tomorrow is Al-Anon. Tomorrow is Al-Anon.”

Pushing myself to be the perfect mother, wife, employee, including making handmade ornaments, had driven me to the verge of a nervous breakdown. I was working 40 hours as a research assistant at the University of Maryland. Waking up at 5am to breastfeed my 6-month-old daughter, Elizabeth, before getting my 2-year-old daughter, Mary, dressed and ready for day care. Also, Elizabeth was still not sleeping though the night. My husband didn’t “help” me and it became easier to just do it all myself. I had night duty, day duty, a full-time job and an expectation I had placed on myself to do it all. The moment of paralysis, the Al-Anon meeting, all helped me to wake up and look at my life.

The second “awakening” was at Christmas time the next year. It was during an argument with my husband and glancing to see a look in my youngest daughter’s eyes.  When I heard a voice in my head say, “This is not the role model I came to be for my children,” I was sparked into awakening. I knew something had to change and I knew it had to be me.

I knew there were problems in our marriage, and I had tried to “fix” them. I converted to Catholicism so my husband would go to church. I went to Al-Anon and expected my husband to go to AA. I read books like, “The Dance of Anger,” and “The Dance of Intimacy,” and tried to engage my husband in conversation. I went to therapy and did Family Constellation work. But, with every “personal growth” step, I tried to make him change.  After one more year of co-dependency, I finally made the decision that I would leave the marriage and focus on healing myself.

When I think of other times in my life when I felt an “awakening,” there was a moment that felt like a light bulb being switched on. I describe it as an inner knowing that was sparked from within and a voice inside of me gives me a message that shifts my perspective. I am called into change. The spark might have been an answer to a long, awaited question or a feeling like thunder clapping. The feelings range from fear to shock to relief. It might be connected to a relationship, a job, a move, or a hidden desire.

When the light of awareness is turned on, there is no going back. You have been awakened to something and in that moment, everything changes. You cannot unsee it or unknow it. It is a moment when you wake up to a new awareness and you know you have to make different choices. It may feel like life or death. You may need to cry and grieve. You see your life with a new perspective.  It sets something new in motion. It requires action and the complete change may take years to unfold into the new, but it starts with, there was a moment when…

         This is where you have a choice. You can acknowledge it, or you can do things to try to deny it. You can’t unsee it, but you can pour all of your energy into the denial, if you choose. Get super busy. Use an addiction like eating, drinking, sex, exercise, work, anything that becomes an obsession that fills up all empty space where you may feel the thing that you just saw. Or you can choose change. You can let the awakening guide you to something new.

 

*Acknowledge: Begin with an acknowledgement of the awakening.

*Support: A women’s circle, a class, a therapist, a support group, or a friend. Get support from people who can support you without judgement.

*Take baby steps. What’s the next step? That is all you need to know right now.

*Self-care. Nurture yourself with silence, pampering, nutrition, rest, and simple pleasures.

 

Personal awakenings will guide you to a better life. They begin as disruptors. There is chaos. The life you are here to create is waiting for you and it requires change. Surrender. Follow the steps above and open to the magic on the other side.

 

I leave you with a few questions to explore:

 

*Was there a moment in your life when you saw an injustice that other people did not see, and you had to stand up and speak even though you knew someone would be upset with you? Would you do it again?


*Think of a moment when you heard about a book or a film that opened your eyes to something. What was the topic? How did reading the book or watching the film change your life?

*Was there a moment when you noticed something, about a person, and you knew you had to make a choice to get closer or farther away from them?

 

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Andrea Hylen: Author of Heal My Voice: An Evolutionary Woman’s Journey. Creator of The Writing Incubator, on-line writing community. www.andreahylen.com

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Healing Your Lineage

May 12, 2019

(Originally published in On Purpose Woman Magazine March 2019) By Andrea Hylen Have you heard about the tests that are available now for finding out about your ancestry? By swabbing the inside of your cheek or spitting into a test tube, there are tests to identify which ancestral tribes you belong to. The key is […]

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Incorporating Meditation into Self-Care by Carolyn A. Brent

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New Book Release

August 20, 2018

Congratulations to Andrea Hylen, Founder of Heal My Voice on the Release of her new book! In Andrea’s words, “This book took me ten years to write and sixty years to live. My intention in writing this book was to demonstrate the power of sharing our experiences of adversity as a road map to discovering […]

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Hope and Love Prevail

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My favorite film of all time is, The Field of Dreams. It is a film that is filled with examples of hope, following your heart, listening to your intuition and a belief in the good of humanity. So, when I woke up this morning with the song, “I’m feeling good,” playing in my head and […]

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Next Steps: Support the Voices of Women

March 10, 2018

Heal My Voice was started in 2011 as a way for women to break the silence, share their stories and step into greater leadership in their lives. For seven years, we have been meeting in secret Facebook groups, behind closed doors, healing our voices and writing 200 stories that are now in ten books on […]

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4 Ways You Can Pursue Your Dreams AND Be A Great Mom

October 22, 2017

From one of the contributing authors in the Heal My Voice book: Innovative Voices: True Stories by Women Awakening a New World. Guest Blogger, Tamara Latrese Robinson What do you dream of? You probably have hopes and dreams for your children and their futures, but what are your dreams for yourself? Do you remember what […]

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Everyday Innovation

October 7, 2017

When you hear the word Innovation, what or who do you think of? A famous inventor or entrepreneur? A leading edge, Fortune 500 company or a start-up? Do you think of yourself? In an inspirational TEDx Talk  called, The Art of Innovation, Dimis Michaelides describes 3 ways to Innovate: 1st way: Innovation can be very radical […]

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Landing On Your Feet with Sherry Burton Ways

July 23, 2017

Landing on Your Feet and Putting Down Roots: 21 Rituals to Transform Your Life and Interior Space By Sherry Burton Ways Today is Day 5 on a 9 stop virtual book tour. From July 14 – July 28TH. Sherry is visiting Nine Websites on a virtual book tour. You are invited to follow the tour, […]

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